Are you the one standing there with your jaw hanging to the ground when your boyfriend drops the, "I need more space" bomb? Maybe you sensed that something was going on with him, but weren't quite ready for this. No worries ladies, I'll show you exactly what to do and more importantly, what not to do.

Maybe you've already lost him and you're wondering what to do now that he has already moved on.  Keep your chin up because there's a great chance that it's not completely over yet because he still has memories and feelings for you. It's what you do with those memories and feelings from here on out that are going to make it or break it.

Follow the strategies below and you just may have your boyfriend crawling back before he knows what's about to hit him. Yes, it's a bit manipulative. It's ok, your future with your man is on the line. Here's what you need to do step by step to get your boyfriend back when he says he needs more space.

1 - Agree with him and tell him that you've been thinking that you need more space too. This will scramble his entire thought process and make him start to wonder what's wrong with him. It's not too late even if you've already done the crying, pleading, begging, reasoning. Simply agree and walk away. You've got to employ your best poker face here. This is  very hard to do. Remember, poker face. 

2 - Stop talking about the problem(s) and just try to relax and be his friend. Remember when you two could just hang out and enjoy each other with no expectation of what the other should or shouldn't do? Smile, laugh and joke around with him to make him feel like the pressure of the relationship has eased off. When things begin to settle down and he begins to enjoy you again, he just may change his mind and decide that he does not want more space after all. He wants more of you. 

3 - Remember when everything you said to him was kind, uplifting, encouraging and pleasant? You've got to get that back and leave the criticism and grumpy attitude at the door. Just be nice to him but don't be afraid to have a little bit of attitude. You want him to be thinking that he just can't have you back just yet. Be careful here, if you play too hard to get he may just get caught up in "winning the game" and not because he really wants to be back with you.

4 - You want him to know that you're still available without throwing yourself at him. You should hang out with friends and family and just have fun. It's ok to flirt a little, but never with any of his friends.  Remember to keep yourself available or he may give up too easily on trying to get you back. He may get unmotivated to do so especially if you get involved with someone else.  (I strongly urge you to stay away from anything other than a tad bit of flirting.)

5 - You've got to act like you are alright with everything that is happening. You need to play it cool so he does not underestimate you. The last thing that you want to do is seem needy or desperate. That will put the kind of pressure on him that will be repealing. He won't want it and he'll run the other way. 

6 - Any time that you think that he is looking at you, give him a side glance to let him know that you noticed without giving direct eye contact. You'll be interesting to him because you are remaining mysterious.

7 - Talk about the good times that you've had together. Maybe you could go through some old pictures or share memories of a trip that you took. Only bring up the good stuff. You want to keep any negative thinking out of his mind so he can remember why he loves you. 

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are not the initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. I did everything wrong and I don't want you to suffer for a long time.  These are not my original ideas. I turned to T 'Dub' Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.

T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called "The Magic Of Making Up". And you know, it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.

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